In my house with two little girls we have been talking and planning our Halloween costumes for the past two months. It was finally determined by our four-year-old that she would be Elsa (along with every other little girl in America) and her sister would be Cinderella
“What are you going to dress up as for Halloween, Mommy?” She asked one day.
“I think I’ll dress up as a mommy,” I responded. Of course she didn’t go for that and I will be rocking some awesome Minnie Mouse ears at the Great Pumpkin Party this year. But that response of mine got me thinking…..
“I will DRESS UP as a mommy.” Why do I need to dress up as a mommy? Am I not a mommy every day? Do I dress up as a mommy everyday? What other areas of my life am I dressing up?
Is it just me, or does anyone else feel like we’re trying so hard to dress up as an awesome mommy or wife or woman and not just be real. Be the mommy I really am and know that IT IS GOOD ENOUGH. I don’t need to pretend to be anything better or greater or cleaner or more put together, or more on-time, or prettier or _____ . You fill in the blank.
The devil wants nothing more than for us to listen to those little lies he has repeating in our heads. That we’re not good enough. That we won’t be liked or accepted if we’re not a certain way.
Don’t even get me started on the way Satan uses social media to tear me down – anybody with me? I mean, don’t get me wrong, I love me some Instagram and Facebook, but what is my motive for posting a picture of my sweet girl? Am I posting it so that everyone will see it and think “oh wow! Look how clean her house is, and look at what a fantastic mom Elizabeth must be and look at how brilliant her daughter is because she can put her boots on the right feet…. And it goes on and on. Then the lies continue as I scroll through my other friends’ pictures. What thoughts am I thinking about them? Is it truth? Is it lovely?
Philippians 4:8 says, “Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.” Any other things I’m thinking or dwelling on or worrying about or HIDING behind are LIES.
I don’t need to hide behind any kind of super hero mommy mask. I don’t need to dress up as the perfect, all put together mommy. (What would that costume even look like, anyway? J ) I just need to be confidant in who God created me to be, rest in Him and hide in His big loving arms that are waiting for me.
“Rescue me from my enemies (and from comparison, and from the lies in my head), O Lord, for I hide myself in YOU.” Psalm 143:9 (emphasis and words added are mine)
So now what? How do I hide myself in my Jesus?
I keep my face in my Bible. In TRUTH. I stand FIRM in what I know I believe and I keep myself in check to the self-talk in my head so I can quickly stop the lies that creep up so fast. I stop comparing myself. And we remember we’re all in this together!! This mom thing is hard, y’all. And we need each other, as real people, to tell each other that it’s ok. There’s no such thing as super-mom. If I look like I have it all together today, just wait until tomorrow.) And even then, the Lord will give me the strength I need to do the thing He has called me to do. If I just let Him. If I just receive it.
Let’s dwell on this, especially as Halloween and costumes and dressing up are around the corner.
Ephesians 6:10 “Therefore, be strong in the Lord and in His mighty power.”
Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.
Therefore put on the full armor of God so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand…
Stand firm then,
with your belt of truth buckled around your waist,
with the breastplate of righteousness in place,
and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace.
In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one.
Take the helmet of salvation
and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.
And pray in the Spirit on all occasions,
ALLLLLLLL occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests.
With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for the saints.”
Go get em, girl! We’re all in this together as women of God! He is calling us to stand firm. He says it at least three times in that passage alone. So, take off the fake mask, stop trying so hard to look or appear or “dress up” as a certain kind of woman.
And put on the full armor of God …
And maybe some Minnie ears too.
For more information about the MOPS group at Valley church visit http://www.valley-church.com/mops
Valley MOPS will be having a fundraiser at Fuddruckers on Monday, November 17th. Eat a yummy lunch and/or dinner at Fuddruckers in WDM that day and put your receipt in the special bucket or ask your server to put the receipt there for you!!! Thanks for helping make our MOPs group such a wonderful community for young moms.
Elizabeth Mason has been a part of Valley MOPs since moving to Des Moines in 2012. She is the mom of two girls, Reese (4) and Lucy (almost 2) and the biggest cheerleader for her husband of seven years, Mark, who is a Surgery Resident at Methodist Hospital downtown. Despite the crazy cold winters, the Mason family has enjoyed their transition from Texas to Iowa. And they’re especially thankful for what God has done for them through Valley Church.